Positivity

Positivity

I am so sorry for being so very late with my posts. Days have been lately too busy for me, when 24 hours per day seemed too less. But since, I have a bit of time up my sleeve now; let’s do a light hearted rant here.

So, there have been times when all I needed was a small positive jiggle to lighten up my moment and gear me up to work. Being almost confined to my room, I usually log in to Facebook or Ask.fm to talk to my friends or stifle giggles seeing memes on random pages. But what actually happens is the opposite. I never get my friends online, but I see these random people on the internet calling each other names, I see hate comments on pictures, I see these sarcastic comments from unnecessary people on somewhat sensible posts. And then I think, why can’t people mind their own business? Or rather why can’t people just be a tad bit positive?

I’ve always been told that being good takes a lot of efforts. It’s much difficult to resist all shortcuts and wrongs to be the right person. And to become a bad person? All it takes is just ONE bad deed, and no way on earth you can be the previously good person again. That is what goes on to become your ‘flaw’. Now everyone has their own ‘flaws’. No man on this earth has ever been or will be perfect. So that doesn’t leave anyone of us with the right to point a finger or a bad gesture at someone else when four fingers are already pointing at us, ourselves.

My mom always says that when people do bad deeds, they release a negative aura and when people do good deeds, they tend to release a positive aura, almost pious to be honest.

So whenever you raise your hands towards the keyboard to type a ‘Funny’ ‘Witty’ or ‘Sarcastic’ comment for no particular reason and just to take a bit of revenge. Please stop. All you are doing is just releasing negativity into the air. The air already has CFCs and Carbon Monoxide to heat and pollute things up, do not add another pollutant to the air. 

What we call hate is nothing but a negative aura by somewhat disorganized people. Hate is a big word. No one hates anyone. What you feel might just be displeasure. So instead of spreading hate, why don’t just ignore? (Refer to my previous post “Ignore”)

Oh, and Instead of being negative, Why don’t just be… Positive?

-DaYumfooDie. Laugh. Rainbows. Unicorns. Love.

Reasons.

One of my friend drinks. Like a Lot. He can almost be called as a drunkard. Well, whenever people come to know that he drinks, they start with their usual monotonous lectures ‘You shouldn’t drink.’ ‘You’ll die someday.’ ‘Alcohol is not the answer to every question.’ ‘Think of your parents.’ ‘Think of your friends.’ ‘How will your parents react when they know about this?’ ‘I won’t talk to you until you stop drinking.’ Well these are the rants that we expect on a normal criterion. And I am not trying to justify the fact that he’s drinking. Well, I totally oppose the idea of drinking. I am against the concept of alcohol and drugs and highly restrain it. But my question is, You rant at that person, scold him, beat him, blackmail him and leave him hurt. Do you ever sit and ask him the reason why is he doing it? It is very easy to hurt that person, But do you know that every wrong has a reason behind it. A reason you never bother to ask. A reason when it is known by you can be easily provided. A reason that may be hurting that person inside and dismantling him minute.By.Minute. A reason you should need to know before bashing that person.

Nobody is born doing wrong things, Nobody comes out of the womb with a pack of cocaine or the strategy plan to bomb any country. We all come out as new individuals and what we choose to do throughout our life is what we become. Now, life is never a bed of roses. There will be problems. Rather, loads of them. When people go through problems they develop their own defence mechanism to fight their problem. They don’t care about what is good and what is not. They just need to breathe in their own sea. And these wrong activities, as much wrong as they are, are perfectly alluring and be the best diving masks in these seas.

The person you right now scolded for drinking, drinks probably because his college ‘older’ friends force him to do so. The person you bashed for being quiet and reserved doesn’t talk probably because he’s being bullied. You scolded your mom for not putting salt in your Sāmbhar but maybe that’s because something happened to one of her friends and she is disturbed. You scolded your elder sister for not making the chart properly when she is working since four in the morning and she hasn’t got an ounce of sleep. You scold your younger brother for being absent-minded while he’s studying, but you don’t know that he’s getting bullied in school and is thus very disturbed.

It isn’t easy to understand everyone in every situation. Sometimes in a fit of anger, envy, regret and hopelessness we do scold people without looking at the back and front of the people. But if someone does that to you, would that be pleasant. Would that be OK with you? No right?

So start respecting others. Start finding reasons for their problems. And instead of being the Medusa in their life, why don’t be the Hercules and help pick their problems up and make them a better person.

Every Bad has a reason, Every evil has its root. Every tongues has its bad. Every wrong develops a shoot. So Let’s be the gardener, who cuts off these weeds. Who stops being the trespasser and become the farmer sowing good seeds.

-DaYumfooDie. Laugh. Rainbows. Unicorns. Love.

No Confusion, Great Life Notion

Many a times in life, we have a lot of confusions ranging from flavor of your ice cream to saying ‘Yes’ to a relationship proposal. I am not only talking about the teenagers but it also accounts for toddlers and adults as well. There are times when your brain is so tangled that you instantaneously get angry and take out your so called anger on others just because your decision making abilities do not co-operate with you. So, let’s help each other today. Let us see what the solution to this turbulence is.

Now to get clear steer of the confusion you are in, you need to give time to yourself to think and act upon the situation. Sit and de-clutter your brain and think how much deep in the mud are you. Think how you fell into the mud, and then think of the possible ways to get out of it. Stop struggling within the mud. The more you wiggle, the deeper you’ll sink into the mess. Just take a stationary hold of yourself and then think of ideas to rise higher.

Now the problem being analyzed, think of solutions to it. Let’s say you have a crush on someone and you can’t bring yourself to draw a borderline to the feelings you have for that person and you overthink about that situation. Now since you have analyzed the problem and taught yourself that it is *just* a crush or else you taught yourself that it is actually Love, you can easily move forward. Now implementing a solution isn’t an easy task bud.

To get rid of the solution you sure have to keep a foot forward and put your stand in front and then work your way to the hilt of it. Be brutally honest, if you know you’re wrong admit it and if you are not then admit it as well. There is only black or white, no grey in between. Secondly, take decisions that have a strong base and can be implemented and performed well in the long run. Instead of making short decisions that terminate within days or hours, make decisions that last until the problem is over. And lastly, think whether your outburst during the confusion or your decision affects someone or not. If you think it damages someone please alter your decision.

These are not the only things you need to keep in mind but there are a gazillion other things that need to be kept in mind whenever taking a decision. Because once you have a fool-proof plan of what you are doing things are easier. And better.

P.S.- This is just my thought and viewpoint. Any criticism is openly welcomed. This is not funny or like the regular posts I make. But this is something I wanted to share since quite a time. Thanks.
P.P.S- I was sleepy when I wrote this, forget and forgive the typos and errors.

-DaYumfooDie. Laugh. Rainbows. Unicorns. Love.